No Surnames Please ......🙏

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Breaking the stereotypes in world is HARD
Standing up against at your own home is TOUGHEST !!

Be that tough one .......!!


Hey girls..... 
They will give you education 
Education that helps you to be financially independent 

But they manage your finances, math ki smaj kuch kam hai 
 For every decision you need their will, duniya ki smaj abi nhi

Right from what to say to what to wear, you need a permission
Lucky you are and your karma if they allow you 

They make you learn patience, adjustments and silence !!
They make you believe You always need a support !!

It’s easy for patriarchy to flourish 
As we accept our second citizenship with silence 
We learn we are good at household chores
But dumb in decision making......

Happy we are when we see that consent 

Do that education we got was only for an earning ?
Do really God differentiated ?
Are we really a weak gender.......

The pain I go through when I brought life.....
Leaving my relations, Starting a new life with full heart.........

Who else has this strength ? 

You celebrate festivals protecting us........ From whom 
Men will protect us from Men 

Dear father you love me.......... But I’m not your honour 
Dear brother you care for me........ But I’m not your possession
Dear husband you married me.......... But I’m not your puppet
Dear son I gave you birth................ But I’m not your responsibility...

Surnames were to celebrate 
They became burdens of dreams and hopes
No chains please ........ 
Let me colour my life with my decision 

An obedient daughter, A loving wife, A caring daughter in law, A perfect housewife,  mother, sister, and ............

Labels are for things.......

 And we too are humans like you..... blessed by this only one life 

No LABELS PLEASE

Why I need to say Let me Live this life ........And see if you agree !!

Who I’m 

Do I owe my own place......... My comfort zone 

A place where I’m not an obedient daughter, a perfect home maker, smart professional, loving mother and so on........... 
I really don’t want to carry the trophy of being good and perfect

Oh father!! you gave us wings to fly But not the sky 

You want us to hold degrees but you expect us to hold our ambitions 

Our minds filled with knowledge but our tongue sealed with sanskars

With this inbuilt stereotype, we can’t hold offices we deserved 

I wasn’t bossy;  I had leadership skills

The boundaries you set for us deliberately silenced us

Little girls with dreams become women with vision 

Dear society .........
As women were too smart too strong 
You made them feel less.......
And she removed jewels on her crown 
To make men easier to carry his ego

Hey girls !! You are too strong 
When you stand for yourself you stand for womanhood. 

Unlearn what they TAUGHT you
Find your Voice, Raise your voice 

You don't need PERMISSIONS 

 
You are a girl.......... And that can’t be reason for anything ever 

Hey Girl you own the power to change your life 
Someone placed the storm in your life 
As you shine too Bright !!

You have the right to universe by birth 
Walk with your magic and be INDEPENDENT

Build yourself up with courage & dignity
 Kindness, wisdom & strength.
Be fierce, fearless & determined
Rise, Stay calm & self confident

Do I need your definition of who I’m ?
Do I need permissions to live my life ?

NO

LIVE LIFE ON MY TERMS ...🤞




















 









Comments

  1. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:36

    Amazing mam...♥️

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  2. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:37

    Wonderful
    The soliloquy of a GIRL

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  3. rahul10 July 2020 at 12:37

    Good one

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  4. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:41

    Amazing... True... Motivative...😍

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  5. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:42

    Here whenever we try to take our stand , we r stopped by saying u r a girl , u are not allowed to speak loud & there if we argue with them then they'll say ki bari badtmeez hai tameez hi nhi rhi. How to raise ur voice then when u don't want to hurt ur family also

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:27

      Be confident little girl. Don't carry big burdens on ur little shoulders. There's an ultimate power who takes care of everyone's hurt. U task is to build urself high with pride dignity wisdom. Celebrate this life. It's one time offer. Much love strength to u ❤️. Thanku

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  6. Jugesh_Singh_Thakur10 July 2020 at 12:42

    It's absolutely amazing mam

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  7. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:44

    amazing Point of view for being real independent..

    Let her fly in the sky and a man have to sit on the ground by raising his head towards the sky and note that how far she has gone...

    good topic mam
    need to be discussed for the betterment of the society .

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:30

      Thanku ❤️. But men task is not to see her how far she goes. She will manage. Men should take care of them where they need to be in society. It's not topic of discussion. It's a fact which patriarchy never accepts.

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  8. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:45

    Beautiful

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  9. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:49

    💯💯

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  10. Unknown10 July 2020 at 12:55

    Your thoughts, your vision is amazing ❤

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  11. Sanjay Singh10 July 2020 at 12:59

    You are absolutely right mam, I too have seen such things happening in my family. But what has happened, has happened. Now, we as a society need to be more responsible and need to educate ourselves and coming generations about such ill practices.

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:34

      Yes young generation can do wonders. But still I doubt. Lockdown showed the violence women suffered. Let's hope things change. Thanku ❤️

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  12. Unknown10 July 2020 at 13:00

    Nycc mam

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  13. Unknown10 July 2020 at 13:07

    Nicely explained. Be free and try to fly. Women's are also human like men. I think in present situation all are equal. So enjoy ur freedom. Keep going 👍👍

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  14. Unknown10 July 2020 at 13:11

    Really heart touching all the lines r real our society has developed a thought that girls r not powerful than boys but we as a girl has duty to prove that girls r not less powerful than boys they r infact more powerful that boys if a female give birth to a young one by facing alot of pains then the difficulties of life r not more painful thanthis theyr just like a tiny graass that can be blown with the help of courage and confidence we have to know that who we r and why we r i salute u mam

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  15. Akhil sharma10 July 2020 at 13:15

    Amazing mam....

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  16. Arohi10 July 2020 at 13:20

    Be the change you want to bring to the world 😊

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:37

      Yes dear, be the change best wishes Thanku ❤️

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  17. Aman10 July 2020 at 13:25

    💯💯🙌🙌

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  19. Kirti's diary10 July 2020 at 13:26

    Heart touching and relatable ❤... .

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  20. jyoti10 July 2020 at 13:30

    Women are omnipotent. They only underestimate their strengths. Otherwise they are capable to outperform men in any task.

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  21. Aanish10 July 2020 at 13:30

    Beautifully written ❤️

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  22. J&kTruth10 July 2020 at 13:32

    (( dear husband I married you..... I'm not ur puppet)) wife is not a property i agree, its a lifeline like your emotions , whom you wrote puppet, im so confused on that particular lines, wife is not a puppet its your life, in this 21 century ladies r so independent but not as puppet

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  23. Dr Monika Bhardwaj10 July 2020 at 13:38

    Beautifully compiled..❤

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  24. Unknown10 July 2020 at 13:44

    👌👌👌👌🤓🤓

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  25. Shivali choudhary10 July 2020 at 13:53

    👌👌👌💯💯💯💯💯

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  26. Surbhi10 July 2020 at 14:02

    loved it. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

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  27. Unknown10 July 2020 at 14:02

    Komal hai kamjor nhi tu,
    Shakti ka nam hi nari hai.
    You are really a shakti 👌🏽👌🏽

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  28. Unknown10 July 2020 at 14:04

    Awesome writeup

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  29. Unknown10 July 2020 at 14:12

    U nailed it right...u are very talented.

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:41

      Wish it hurts patriarchy. Thanku ❤️

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  30. Bopinder singh10 July 2020 at 14:14

    It's really amazing 👍🤩❤

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  31. Unknown10 July 2020 at 14:27

    Beautifully written mam😍

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  32. Mehak sharma10 July 2020 at 15:02

    All lines are commendable mam

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  33. Unknown10 July 2020 at 15:05

    Be u for u and everyone around u with hope and courage..

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:42

      Fill this world with hope and courage dear thanku ❤️

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  34. Unknown10 July 2020 at 15:06

    vry wel said mam

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  35. Prisha 10 July 2020 at 15:08

    Society has to be change..these changes are initiated only by today's generation girls

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:43

      We change ourselves. That's must thanku ❤️

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  36. Unknown10 July 2020 at 15:13

    Beautiful Dee's,is stereotype ko change jarna bada mushkil hain,kunki iski sahi knowledge ladies of the house hi deti hain,jor se bol nahi sakte,susral mein kaise rehna hain,even if somebody torture u mentaly,ladki maije mein zaada din achi bahi lagti....,lust goes on..

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  37. Unknown10 July 2020 at 16:05

    Beautiful lines nd amazing mam💓💓💓

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  38. Anannyaaa10 July 2020 at 16:07

    This is really very motivational ❤️
    Kudos to you 🙌

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  39. Isar Sharma10 July 2020 at 16:12

    Mam we all have seen this around but no one actually bothers. But the actual thing is that, these little things matter in a long run. Its definitely an eye opener. Very aptly and precisely written, wonderful words. I hope people get inspired especially the young girls and the working women class. They should stand and start taking decisions for themselves.

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 16:45

      Yes we need to stand for ourself ❤️

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  40. Unknown10 July 2020 at 16:17

    Loved it! So apt😇

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  41. iabhirchemistry10 July 2020 at 16:19

    Beautifully written mam👌👌👌

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  42. Unknown10 July 2020 at 16:56

    Heart touching....love the way u expressed it...

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  43. Priyanka Choudhary10 July 2020 at 17:38

    All the lines are true.Really heart touching💔

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  44. Unknown10 July 2020 at 17:46

    Mam it is really motivational blog 🔥🔥
    Mam all the lines are heart touching 👌

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  45. Princy Gupta10 July 2020 at 18:23

    very true mam...heart touching..

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  46. Unknown10 July 2020 at 18:48

    The way u have expressed it is really heart touching...more power to u

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  47. Deepali10 July 2020 at 18:58

    Thanku ❤️

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  48. Rajni sharma10 July 2020 at 19:44

    Really great . An internal voice of a girl, woman, who wants to live life on their own terms. No need of certificates from the male dominating society.

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  49. Unknown10 July 2020 at 20:01

    You have expressed your emotions once again quite well! You outlined the story which many girls would relate themselves to. I was blessed to be raised in an environment where my dad encouraged each one of us to progress in life, considered our opinion in family decisions, encouraged me for higher studies and allowed me to get married later than my younger sister, as I was doing PhD. I never had to answer my relatives, he took care of that. My husband treats me more than equal, we take decisions together, cook together, laugh together and he stood tall for me and he ensured that he is able to make me comfortable in his family and that I get the respect and place which must be given to a daughter-in- law 😊. I am blessed. I still agree with you as I have seen some of my friends suffer due to this different treatment based on gender. I hope that this mindset changes. Keep writing, stay blessed, strong and happy. Best wishes to you always Anu

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 20:17

      May God bless u always. Yes many girls pass through this bcz we r conditioned to follow. Things were same when I was young and still same. Hope we change ourself. Thanku ❤️

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  50. Deepali10 July 2020 at 21:02

    Thanku all who spare their precious time in these few days to read my blogs. Much love strength n care to you all ❤️. Be a girl or boy stand up for ur rights understand ur duties and be empathetic in life. Thanku all ❣️

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  51. Unknown10 July 2020 at 22:49

    No words to describe your thoughts..... really heart touching and wonderful..... a big salute to this blog writer..... stay blessed and keep writing....

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    1. Deepali10 July 2020 at 23:18

      Thanku so much ❤️. Blessings love care to u too

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  52. Maansi sharms10 July 2020 at 23:12

    Very nice dear keep it up

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  53. Maansi sharms10 July 2020 at 23:12

    Very nice dear keep it up

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  54. Unknown11 July 2020 at 11:49

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  55. Unknown11 July 2020 at 13:16

    And we gave Freedom to our daughter go excel♥️.....she is blessed to have a teacher like you💐

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  56. Unknown11 July 2020 at 13:44

    Hi Deepali...you became the voice of many women who feel the same but could never express ....its definitely going to make them realize that they are not wrong to think that way...let's celebrate a label less womanhood...best wishes ..Preeti

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  57. Deepali11 July 2020 at 14:42

    Thanku dear ❤️

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  58. Deepali11 July 2020 at 14:58

    There were hate comments which I deleted. The blog hit hard on them who follow patriarchy. How could they accept the blog if they couldn't accept the equality. Thanks to those who appreciated and those who have hate May God show you right path

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  59. Hemender Singh11 July 2020 at 15:27

    Great Mam

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  60. Unknown12 July 2020 at 07:28

    👍👍👍

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  61. Unknown12 July 2020 at 20:43

    Rightly portrayed the constricted and stereotypically conditioned life of woman who deserves sky for flight with wings of education

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  62. Unknown12 July 2020 at 22:43

    Great thought

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  63. Rajni mahajan12 July 2020 at 23:16

    Great deepali
    Keep going...

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  64. Unknown13 July 2020 at 22:51

    Somehow I felt your words mam and deep down my heart, i used to think about it many times that why is it so? Why education is must for a girl , she should know how, when and what to talk but still she's deprived of freedom of speech? Many questions are there but the only answer is to change the mindset nd to make your will stronger. You gave a bold voice to many feeble ones. This times the
    content really touched my heart nd its appreciable. Thank you for this mam. Breaking the stereotypes is a need of the hour and yes! Girls should be independent in every aspect. Society needs an improvisation. Truly inspiring one.❤❤

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    1. Deepali13 July 2020 at 23:43

      Thanku dear ❤️ u gave me strength too. Much strength n lv to every girl

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